zenwords:

“Besides practicing awareness of your thoughts and awareness of suffering, to change the habit, practice compassion. Engage with the suffering in a way that makes things better. If you’re hot, fan yourself. If your toe hurts, rub it. If you call yourself stupid, remember that is an unproductive insult. Help yourself recover from the painful thought by thinking about something that confirms your intelligence. In that way you directly address suffering rather than avoiding it and causing more.”

— Zenmister, from an Ask Post